A born again believer in Jesus Christ is anyone who puts their faith totally in Jesus Christ as their personal Savior and Lord. It is someone who is said to have “entrusted” Jesus Christ with their entire life; to have committed themselves to Him because of what He has done for them and what He has promised them.
He has paid the penalty for their sinful nature by dying on the cross at Calvary which satisfied the righteous requirement of the law and as a result paved the way for all who believe in Him to be eternally forgiven of their sin and to be resurrected with Him unto eternal life with the Godhead at the end of the age.
This is the foundation of the Christian faith; the rock of truth that every born again believer stands on with expectant hope.
Now, people don’t usually put their trust in something or someone who cannot deliver the “goods” so to speak; especially if it involves their very life. If the person or thing falters on what was promised, they usually will disconnect themselves from them; move away from them; give up on them; or disown them, just to name of few of the possible responses. They do this because they have lost “faith” in that person’s ability or the ability of the thing they relied on to deliver what was promised.
Though this behavior of giving up on someone or something for not fulfilling a promise is consistent with being human, it is not a behavior that is consistent with God. Though people may fail to fulfill their promises to one another, God never fails to fulfill His promises to those who love Him and who receive Him as their personal Savior and Lord.
Ponder these verses of Scripture:
Numbers 23:19 (NIV): God is not a man that He should lie, nor a son of man that He should change His mind. Does He speak and then not act? Does He promise and not fulfill?
2Timothy 2:11-13 (NIV): Here is a trustworthy saying: If we died with Him, we will also live with Him; if we endure, we will also reign with Him. If we disown Him, He will also disown us; if we are faithless, He will remain faithful, for He cannot disown Himself.
Why not then, consider giving your life to the One who can save you from eternal damnation. To the One who promises and always fulfills His promises. To the One who did for you what you couldn’t do for yourself. To the One who promises you an eternal life, free of sin and corruption and defilement. An eternal life of fellowship with the One who created you and loved you to the point of dying for you so you could be reconciled and made holy.
In the climate of today’s relativism, it behooves you to ponder this thought; this piece of truth that can bring you to hope with an expectant joy that the world cannot give you, or promise you.
Give your life to Jesus Christ, the only one who can save you from eternal damnation in the Lake of Fire and eternal separation from the one who loved you enough to die for you…
Jesus tells us of an account he had with a fig tree when he was hungry. It can be found in Mark 11:12-14 (NLT):
The next morning as they were leaving Bethany, Jesus felt hungry. He noticed a fig tree a little way off that was in full leaf, so he went over to see if he could find any figs on it. But there were only leaves because it was too early in the season for fruit. Then Jesus said to the tree, “May no one ever eat your fruit again!” And the disciples heard him say it.
Jesus expected to find figs on the tree to satisfy His hunger because the tree advertised it was carrying figs evidenced by its foliage, but when Jesus didn’t find figs, he cursed the tree. What Jesus expected to find, he didn’t.
When people look at you, a professing born-again believer in Jesus Christ, what do they see? Do they see the evidence of your union with the Holy Spirit or do they see your association with the world?
The fruit of your foliage is supposed to be the fruit of the Spirit:
In our lifetime, we will find ourselves engaged in many situations or circumstances that pose a threat to our safety and maybe even to our lives that we can handle by “escaping” from them. But on the flip side, there may be situations or circumstances that we can’t escape and that we find we need to be “rescued” from instead. Why?
It is because, in those situations where “escape” can be accomplished, it is due to our own efforts and merit to overcome whatever the threat or danger may be. But in those situations where rescue is needed, it is due to our inability to overcome the threat or danger on our own efforts or merit.
It is like a person who is trapped in a burning room and who is unable to overcome the power and effects of the flames, heat, and smoke that are overcoming his/her every breath of oxygen. Unable to safely make it to an exit, this person will ultimately die of smoke inhalation and asphyxiation.
In effect, this person was not able to “escape” from the circumstances of the burning room on their own efforts or merit. They needed to have some form of external help, such as a firefighter or Good Samaritan to come to their assistance. They needed someone who had the power to overcome the circumstances of the burning room. If that had happened, we would be able to say that the person was “rescued” from the burning room by either the firefighter or Good Samaritan; we couldn’t say that they “escaped”.
The person who is trapped in that burning room has a final destiny that awaits them if they are not removed from that situation; it is the loss of their life. If they cannot do anything on their own to remove themselves, make no mistake about it, they are going to die from smoke inhalation and asphyxiation. Their self-efforts would be of no avail because they cannot overcome their physical condition.
Mankind (you and I), finds ourselves in a life-threatening situation with respect to our spiritual position and condition with God. We cannot “escape” the sentence of eternal death that God has pronounced on us as a result of the sin of Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eden. It is a fact that mankind is destined to be thrown into the Lake of Fire, to be eternally separated from God, and to be eternally tormented.
The devil wants you to think that you can “escape” from this sentence of eternal death, separation, and torment. The devil makes you think you are not in any danger with God. The devil makes you think that all you have to do is to be good throughout your life and that will enable you to “escape” this sentence; that goodness alone will give you eternal fellowship with God.
But God tells us something very different. God tells us that we cannot “escape” His sentence of eternal damnation and wrath on our own merits or efforts. God tells us that the only way to have eternal fellowship and union with Him is through having belief and faith in Jesus Christ and thereby being “rescued” from His condemnation and wrath.
We are told in Colossians 1:13
“13For He has rescued us from the one who rules in the kingdom of darkness, and He has brought us into the Kingdom of His dear Son.”
And in John 3:16,17
“16For God so loved the world that He gave His only Son, so that everyone who believes in Him will not perish but have eternal life. 17God did not send His Son into the world to condemn it, but to save it.”
God tells us that when we believe in His Son (Jesus Christ) for what He did for us by taking our punishment and dying on the cross; shedding His blood to provide the forgiveness of our sins; and entrusting our entire lives over to His care – only then will we be “rescued” by Jesus Christ from the sentence of eternal judgment and condemnation.
Don’t let Satan continue to deceive you with his lie that you can “escape” the eternal judgment of God by your good works.
Let today be the day you receive Jesus Christ as your personal Lord and Savior.
Believe that He died on the cross at Calvary to pay your sin debt; that He shed His own blood on the cross for the remission of your sins; that He was raised from the dead on the third day following His crucifixion through the justification of the Father; and that He gives eternal life to all who believe in Him.
Remember that you are in need of “rescue” from the judgment of God of being thrown into the Lake of Fire to be eternally tormented and of being eternally separated from God and experiencing a spiritual eternal death that comes from it.
Again I say, let today be the day you receive Jesus Christ as your personal Lord and Savior and let God do what only He can do for you to make your life reconciled back to Him.
For some reason, it appears as though many Christians do not believe they can speak out against sinful thoughts, attitudes, and behaviors they see manifest in other Christian’s lives. Well, I believe this is a dangerous position to take.
You see, desensitization to the Word of God is a dangerous thing. Merriam-Webster’s Collegiate Dictionary defines desensitization in this way: to make emotionally insensitive or callous; specifically to extinguish an emotional response to stimuli that formerly induced it. (Such as fear, anxiety, or guilt)
Now in the context of a brother or sister in Christ sinning, it is the emotional response of guilt that makes them aware of their offenses and transgressions against God and/or their neighbor. Without guilt, a person has no ability to experience remorse, regret, or sorrow over what they have done.
Now we know that man is not perfect. Man will always make mistakes. Man will always fall short of God’s moral standards, so it is critical then, that man remains conscious of his shortcomings. It is critical that man has a heart, a mind and a will to correct those shortcomings and minimize their occurrences in his life. Desensitization to guilt prevents this from happening.
Scripture mandates every Christian to confront one another through a process of confrontation called Nouthesia. It is a Greek noun. It is defined in the lexical dictionary as “an admonition, a warning, or an exhortation. Any word of encouragement or reproof which leads to correct behavior.”
Now the Bible is our utility tool, our manual, our guide for providing Nouthetic guidance because it is God’s Word of moral instruction to us as it pertains to living holy and righteous lives in the body of Christ.
Hebrews 4:12 tells us: “For the word of God is living and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart.”
God has given us a moral compass to use in our daily interactions with each other. The Holy Bible. Therefore, by it, we can have accountability to one another so that we can be a “facilitory agent” in each other’s lives for spiritual growth and maturation. Our responsibility to ourselves and to others is to live by God’s moral compass.
However, many born-again believers are failing and even running away from fulfilling this responsibility. Instead of spiritual growth and maturation, there is spiritual retardation and adolescence as it pertains to living holy and righteous lives, because of the failure to execute nouthetic confrontation in the lives of those who demonstrate wayward actions. They are not held accountable to the Word of God. No one warns or admonishes them by the Word of God and consequently, they remain outside the will of God; living defeated lives with an immature faith.
Let me take a moment and show you how accountability will facilitate obedience.
If I find myself doing something that is not in accord with God’s standard, then you would be correct in saying that I am off center or missing the mark. Now the longer I remain there, the more rooted I will become there and the more distant I will remain from God’s moral expectation of my life.
If no one confronts me for being off the mark or holds me accountable for my wayward conduct, then I will continue to be disobedient to God’s morality and will remain off center. Something has to motivate me to move back in line. Something has to awaken my sense of guilt for being off the mark. That something is nouthetic confrontation from another brother or sister in Christ.
Proverbs 27:17 tells us: “As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another”.
The lexical definition of “sharpens” in this text of scripture means to make something stronger or to improve. Therefore, to state this proverb using this definition would sound like this: “As iron strengthens and improves iron, so one man strengthens and improves another.” This is through the process of Nouthetic confrontation.
Knowing this, tell me why so many born-again believers in Jesus Christ are not confronting one another? What is the reason for tolerating ungodliness in another Christian’s life? Well, I believe it has to do with one of two things: either apathy or fear.
If you find that you fall into the category of apathy, then I say this to you-you are sinning against the second command given by Jesus, which states we are to “love your neighbor as yourself”.
This love is agape love. The love that esteems others, cherishes others, favors others, honors others, respects others, accepts others, prizes others, relishes others, is devoted to others, is loyal to others, and is concerned for others. If you are apathetic toward your neighbor how can love them in this way?
If you find that you fall into the category of the fearful who are afraid of man’s possible repercussions from confrontation, which might involve verbal accosting, ostracism or even physical assault, then I say this to you-you are not trusting God for the veracity and wisdom of his word. You are not trusting God for the truth of his instruction. You do not have the conviction of:
Psalm 56:3, which states, “When I am afraid, I will trust in you.”
Psalm 56:4 which states, “In God, whose word I praise, in God I trust; I will not be afraid. What can mortal man do to me?”
Psalm 118:8, which states, “It is better to take refuge in the Lord than to trust in man.”
You see, to confront is to love openly. Not to confront is to be unloving.
Proverbs 27:5 tells us “better is open rebuke than hidden love.”
Therefore, it is time you started practicing your faith and demonstrating Christian love one to another from the perspective of obedience to the mandate in Scripture of nouthetically confronting your neighbor when you see sin abound in their lives.
Let me give you one last illustration of the how the Lord expects us to love one another through nouthetic confrontation.
In the world when someone commits a crime, it is because they have done something outside the boundaries of the law. They become wanted criminals and walk around ever mindful the police are looking for them.
One day they are spotted by the police and stopped. The officer has grounds to search them and does so by “frisking” them down to see if there are any illegal items they might be carrying on their person. If the officer finds something, he takes it away – he confiscates it. It is no longer in the possession of the person.
Well in the kingdom of God, we are mandated to do to each other what the police officer did to the criminal suspect. We have been given legal grounds to “frisk” one another down. We have been given legal grounds to use the Word of God to search for any ungodliness in the lives of one another when they have committed sin. When we see the ungodliness, we are to be a facilitory agent in the confiscation of it.
By that, I mean we are to teach, rebuke, correct, and train in righteousness through the use of God’s instructions as mandated in the Bible; to bring to light the ungodly contraband our brother or sister may be carrying in their lives. We are to use the authority of the Word of God when we “frisk”. Only using the truth of the Word of God will bring conviction, and only conviction will birth the awareness of guilt that will be the catalyst for change.
If we all can become proficient in utilizing the process of Nouthetic guidance one to another, we would see great strides made in the lives of every born-again believer as it pertains to their spiritual growth and maturation in the body of Christ.
The Lord in His Word is very specific in His admonition to the believer concerning the progressive societal decline that is to come.
But mark this: There will be terrible times in the last days. People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, without love, unforgiving, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not lovers of the good, treacherous, rash, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God – having a form of godliness but denying its power…
For the time will come when men will not put up with sound doctrine. Instead, to suit their own desires, they will gather around them a great number of teachers to say what their itching ears want to hear. They will turn their ears away from the truth and turn aside to myths.
Anyone who has eyes and ears can testify to seeing this happening today in their own backyard and must agree that the fruit of this produces a societal culture of unorthodox lifestyles that are growing larger and larger and that contribute to the decline of biblical morals and values with each succeeding generation.
The biblical counselor is in the trenches with people who come to them as by-products of this societal degradation carrying problems, concerns, and crises that need attention; that need to be resolved but cannot because the societal solution only leads them deeper and deeper into degradation. It is challenging therefore to the biblical counselor to transform the ungodly patterns of thought that pervade the hearts and minds of their counselee.
I therefore give the following admonition to the biblical counselor who is called to be a facilitory agent in the life of someone who needs guidance from God’s Word.
It is purposed to have the prospective counselor take inventory of his or her own motivation and intent of wanting to become a vessel of the Lord to be used in the arena of a counseling session.
Be prepared for the head-to-head combat of biblical counseling.
I chose this statement because I want to convey to you a very important truth about counseling from a biblical perspective. A truth that is only experienced by the counselor who is actively engaged on the proverbial battlefield of the counseling session.
Therefore, this truth is an experiential truth. That means it is experienced or lived out; not studied in the classroom or in a lecture hall; but experienced or lived out in the mind of the person or persons the counselor is counseling.
You see, the counselor finds out very quickly that the counselee’s mind is a fortified bunker that protects and feeds into something of an eternal value that is deep inside the counselee. The counselee’s heart.
The truth therefore, that I want you to come to know and understand is this:
The counselor must first strategically overcome this bunker in the mind of the counselee before any pursuit can be undertaken to destroy any stronghold found in the heart of the counselee.
You see, there is a direct link between the bunker and the heart. However, before any release of hostages is made in the heart of the counselee, the counselor, must first understand and embrace this truth, and then, overcome the bunker in the only method of engagement he has: that is head-to-head combat.
Notice I said head-to-head and not hand-to-hand.
I chose this metaphor because it graphically depicts the dynamics of the initial engagement you will have with a counselee’s presentation problem.
No, they do not come at you swinging their fists; they come at you swinging their intellectual arguments and intellectual persuasions; their justifications and rationalizations concerning their morals, beliefs, thoughts and conduct.
At your first introduction to the counselee, you will step onto a battlefield where you become directly engaged and entangled in the mind of someone whose is under the influence of an ungodly persuasion of the adversary.
Now do not be deceived by some erroneous thought about why people come for counseling; especially professing Christians. Not everyone you see in session is eager to hear from God. Not everyone you see in session is eager to do what God instructs. Many times the counselee’s arguments and persuasions are contrary to God’s, and submitting to God and His Word would be to go against the deeply rooted persuasions and arguments the adversary has planted in their hearts.
This is a known fact. If it were not true, there would be no need for them to seek out counseling. They would not have to seek you out for help. They would know to be obedient to the Holy Spirits’ leading in their life and would be malleable in allowing Him to transform them in their present circumstance, so you would not be needed.
However, you will discover that many who come into session are truly perverted in their theology, and in need of transformation due to their illiteracy of God’s Word or either their rebellion towards it.
So let me say to you again:
Be prepared for the head-to-head combat of biblical counseling.
As a vessel of the Lord, you will be tested and tried by the counselee. You will be stretched, pressed, and pushed by the counselee into a proverbial corner many times in your encounters until you overcome the resistance put up from counselee’s bunker.
You see, if the truth be told, every counselee has an opinion concerning their situation, and that opinion is fortified in that bunker. For many, it is fortified and under girded by perverted morals and values that the adversary has deceived the counselee into believing are true.
And though you may not agree with their opinions, if not careful, those very opinions will strike you like flak from an artillery barrage and you may find yourself consequently expending an unexpected and unplanned amount of energy keeping your own flesh under subjection during the barrage than you would have ever imagined.
Therefore, let it be known that it is imperative for you, the counselor, to be prepared spiritually before you engage any counselee.
Well, what do you mean by that Elder?
I mean this: if you, the counselor, are not rooted, anchored, and committed to the Word of God, and willing to submit to the leading of the Holy Spirit, then you should not go into battle with any counselee. Do not be deceived. The devil is more than a worthy opponent to the unstudied and uncommitted babe in Christ.
In order to survive any head-to-head encounter with the adversary, the counselor must be committed to letting the Holy Spirit work through them. The counselor must not only have God’s Word inside of himself or herself, but they must be proficient in rightly dividing the Word of truth and speaking what God wants them to speak.
The counselor’s convictions, arguments, and persuasions must be the same as the Lord’s as it pertains to holiness, righteousness and purity. The counselor must have a faith that is strong enough and rooted enough in the Lord Jesus Christ to allow themselves to be used at all cost in the battlefield of the counseling session.
Understand one thing. Scripture reminds us that we do not struggle against flesh and blood. That means we are not engaged or entangled in physical warfare. Scripture tells us we struggle against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. That means we are engaged and entangled in spiritual struggles against the adversary and his kingdom.
Therefore, the counselor must be prepared spiritually to do battle against the counselee’s bunker as the Lord directs and leads.
Again, I say:
Be prepared for the head-to-head combat of biblical counseling.
I leave you with this thought:
People will believe what they want to believe, not necessarily what they need to believe.
With that in mind, know that you will be on a journey with the Lord in moving from the counselee’s head or bunker, where you will battle the presentation and pattern of thinking levels, to entering his or her heart, where you will fight the final battle of the performance and preconditioning levels.
Be a weak vessel for the Lord that loses the battle of the bunker and you will never engage the adversary’s foothold in the counselee’s heart.
Remember and never forget that you are the conduit for the Holy Spirit. You are the vessel for the Lord. You will be the mouthpiece for the Lord. You will be His soldier on the battlefield of the counseling session.
Will you be prepared for the battle? Will you be able to stand firm and strong for the Lord when you come up against the counselee’s bunker? Will you be able to bring every thought that is contrary to the knowledge of God under subjection and make it obedient to Christ? Do you have enough compassion for your counselee to persevere the hardships of the struggles you will have in overcoming the bunker as the Lord has?
I pray for the sake of the counselee that you are prepared.
I close in stating to you again:
Be prepared for the head-to-head combat of biblical counseling.
Now may the love of God, the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ, and the fellowship of the Holy Spirit be with you.